Compliments...
I got to talk to a dad of my Egyptian friend. He seemed very nice and very well educated and thus I decided to ask about the topic that interested me the most - why do guys compliment women so much since the women dont like it. He stared at me and said but the women like it!!! I looked at him in disbelief, as well as his daughter, and we pretty much entered in a fierce discussion about how women hate these compliments, how annoying it is to be constantly commented upon, whispered to or laudly shouted upon in the streets... But he would not give an inch from his opinion and would firmly believe women enjoy compliments! Imagine that. And he is not the first guy to be so sure that women love all these compliments.
Ok, here is the truth. Women do like compliments. Women might enjoy compliments every 5seconds - but those are usually only those women that come to these countries as a tourist, they spend a week here, build up their self-confidence and go home, go home to cold and non-interested guys where they dont feel attractive any longer and they live from the sweet and memorable time in Egypt.
If women dress up for some special event, or even dress to go to work or any other place, it is nice to be told "you look nice/beautiful" in that outfit, or any other "normal" compliment. But these sort of compliments are expected from family members or friends but not really from every second guy on the street!
5second compliments - these are not liked!! Who wants to be told every five seconds some bullshit about ones looks. NOONE. Believe me. It is uncomfortable and the compliment loses all its value. The special thing about compliment is, that it is told unexpectadly. The compliment must be desired and longed for. Thus shouts on the streets are not considered as compliments, they are not appreaciated and they do turn annoying within first hour in Egypt (or any other similar country).
As far as I am concerned, I dont like compliments altogether so learning Arabic is out of question for me... at least once it turns out good to be ignorant...
Ok, here is the truth. Women do like compliments. Women might enjoy compliments every 5seconds - but those are usually only those women that come to these countries as a tourist, they spend a week here, build up their self-confidence and go home, go home to cold and non-interested guys where they dont feel attractive any longer and they live from the sweet and memorable time in Egypt.
If women dress up for some special event, or even dress to go to work or any other place, it is nice to be told "you look nice/beautiful" in that outfit, or any other "normal" compliment. But these sort of compliments are expected from family members or friends but not really from every second guy on the street!
5second compliments - these are not liked!! Who wants to be told every five seconds some bullshit about ones looks. NOONE. Believe me. It is uncomfortable and the compliment loses all its value. The special thing about compliment is, that it is told unexpectadly. The compliment must be desired and longed for. Thus shouts on the streets are not considered as compliments, they are not appreaciated and they do turn annoying within first hour in Egypt (or any other similar country).
As far as I am concerned, I dont like compliments altogether so learning Arabic is out of question for me... at least once it turns out good to be ignorant...
Labels: Egypt
posted by Mart'a at 11:37 AM
4 Comments:
Hey baby!!
could this be considered as a compliment? hahahahahaha
I like this post!! :)
Shall I answer to your "hey baby" in my usual way which I use here in Egypt... or shall I take it as a teasing from a friend :P and forgive your ignorance on this topic?!? :o)))
... you should not talk too much, habibi, when smoking shisha... or you might choke on it... ;o)))
hahahah ok if an Egyptian said that to you what would be your answer? :DDD
that is difficult to say, cause i adjust my answer to whatever situation the guy is in :o). Hehe, so unfortunately this shall stay hidden from you... :o))
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